Boosting Self-Esteem With Affirmations
Written by Jerry on November 3, 2009 – 4:15 am -Boosting Self-Esteem With Affirmations
When you consider that low self-esteem is the result of negative messages being absorbed by the subconscious, it makes sense that feeding your mind more positive messages can make a powerful difference!
What stops most people is not being sure of what to say, and how to word affirmations for optimal results. Below you’ll find some simple tips to help you write effective affirmations for improving your self-esteem.
1) Present tense. First, it’s helpful to word affirmations in present tense, not the future. You wouldn’t want to say, “I will learn to love myself” because that makes it sound like you’ll get around to it “someday.” Instead you could say, “I choose to love myself.” The wording of that affirmation does two things: it empowers you with the addition of the words “choose to,” and it puts the timeframe in the present moment.
2) Believable. At the same time, your affirmations should be believable to you. If you try to say, “I am a wonderful person with a lot to offer the world,” you may not really believe it, so your subconscious mind might reject it. Instead, try to focus on a process rather than an end result in your affirmations. Say something like, “I am learning to embrace my uniqueness and share it confidently with others.” As your confidence builds, your ststements can become more bold.
3) Use the right tone. When you recite affirmations, you can do so aloud or just mentally, but you should focus heavily on the TONE you use. Rather than saying the words without emotion like you were reading a newspaper – really inject an element of love and passion into them. Your subconscious mind picks up on the emotional aspect of what you’re saying more than the actual words. Imagine the difference between saying the words, “I really love myself” with a tone of love and compassion, or of sarcasm. Which do you think would have a greater impact on your subconscious mind?
4) Repetition. Once you’ve got some affirmations formed to work on your self-esteem, try saying them several times a day. Remember, your subconscious mind is constantly playing back old, negative messages – so you want to counteract those as often as possible. Keep reciting your more positive thoughts on a regular basis – especially when you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself.
5) Give it time. Finally, remember that it will take time to change those old, negative messages in your mind to something more positive. It may take a few weeks or even months before you’ll notice an obvious difference in how you feel, and you may be tempted to think it isn’t working. Keep with it, and you will begin to see a difference eventually! Most likely it will be a gradual change. Little by little you’ll start feeling more positive, and notice that you’re feeling a bit happier and lighter. That’s your signal that it’s working!
6) Remember that you can use this formula for anything you want to change for the better in your life.
Start today, with something small and…
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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What Is Self Hypnosis? Part 1
Written by Jerry on October 15, 2009 – 8:52 pm -
What Is Self Hypnosis?
There are several types of hypnosis – there is stage hypnosis, which is done in front of an audience for entertainment purposes, there is hypnotherapy, which is done by a hypnotist on a patient in order to help them deal with a problem or to improve themselves, and there is self hypnosis, which allows the patient to, in a way, self treat, and hypnotize themselves to reach their goals.
Self hypnosis for therapy is very different from stage hypnosis, which is form of entertainment and is often not true hypnosis, as volunteers are also feeling pressure to play along.
Self hypnosis is simply presenting new ideas and words to your brain, while in a receptive state, in order to help you achieve a goal or change a habit. This is different from meditation, because you have a specific goal in mind. Brain scans have shown that a person’s brain activity changes when in a hypnotic state.
In hypnosis, people remain fully aware of the world around them and are simply opening their subconscious mind up to become more receptive to a new idea or thought. This thought or "prescription" will stay in the subject’s subconscious mind, making them more likely to reach their goals.
Hypnosis is based on the idea that our conscious mind and our subconscious mind are not always working very well together, and by using hypnosis, we can realign our subconscious thinking with what our conscious mind wants. We can use this to improve ourselves in many ways.
What Can You Use Self Hypnosis For?
Basically anything that can be achieved by changing your attitude or habits can be changed with hypnosis. Common goals include quitting smoking and weight loss; although it can be used to help you do better at work and get better grades at school.
Hypnotherapy also has a variety of uses in helping patients deal with fears or low self esteem.
Here’s a short list of what you might use hypnosis for:
do better at work or school
lowering blood pressure
losing weight
improve your memory and/or concentration
quit smoking
raise your self confidence and self esteem
overcome fears
improve sports performance
learn a foreign language
People commonly use hypnosis as a form of therapy, to achieve their goals or work through their problems or fears, such as the fear of heights or fear of public speaking. While this can be done without hypnosis, hypnosis can make the job easier for you by removing negative thoughts and attitudes.
Hypnosis is also a common method to help people with insomnia. Hypnosis cannot replace sleep; it can only make it easier to fall asleep, and maybe improve the quality of sleep.
Hypnosis helps you to relax and calm your mind and your body into a relaxed alpha state. Then you can allow yourself to drift deeper into a theta sleep state. Since insomnia is a common problem in our fast paced world, learning Self Hypnosis can be a great way to re-educate your mind and body to rest without using drugs that leave you "hung over" and become addictive.
Common Concerns About Self Hypnosis
Many people have scary notions about hypnosis. Hypnosis is often seen as a method of mind control, especially if you have seen a stage hypnotist act or one too many B rated horror movies.
For people who are concerned with somebody else controlling their minds, self hypnosis may be a sound choice, because YOU remain in complete control of everything that happens. For others, it may be easier and more comfortable to choose a professional hypnotherapist, at least, in the beginning to teach you the basics of getting into a receptive state and giving your mind suggestions.
During hypnosis, you will remain completely aware of everything around you. When you leave the hypnotic state, you will remember everything that happened during the session. The exception to this is if you are using Self Hypnosis to fall asleep.
You need to be more receptive, in order for hypnosis to work best.
However, another concern people have is that while they are hypnotized, they are more vulnerable and receptive to negative suggestions. While you are hypnotized, you ARE more receptive to suggestions and to words. However, your conscious mind is still aware of what is going on, so you will not act on a crazy suggestion.
In other words, a hypnotist could not make the Dalai Lama go out and assassinate the president of the US. It just doesn’t work that way.
A common fear is that a person who is self hypnotized will not be able to wake up. But during hypnosis, you are still conscious and aware.
You can simply instruct yourself to wake, and you will. If you are still concerned that you will forget to tell yourself to wake up, you need to remember that even if you don’t tell yourself to wake up when you take a nap, you still do naturally wake up. Also, you will eventually become hungry, thirsty or tired. So even if you could forget to wake yourself up, your body would simply do it for you naturally.
Stay tuned for Part 2 where we’ll cover: How Self Hypnosis works, How to choose effective suggestions, Self Hypnosis compared to hypnosis by another person, a great low cost hypnosis report and a great resource for the absolute best audios you can find to for Self Hypnosis.
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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Affirmations That Attract Prosperity
Written by Jerry on September 30, 2009 – 3:58 am -Affirmations That Attract Prosperity
Do you have a hard time focusing on prosperity? Do you find yourself struggling with negative thoughts that seem to attract more lack and difficulty into your life? Affirmations are a simple tool you can use to turn it around.
Affirmations work best by delivering repeated new messages to your subconscious mind. Most often, this involves replacing old, limiting messages with new, empowering messages.
However, be careful of the way you word your affirmations. This will determine how effective they really are.
If I asked you to recite this affirmation: “I am a millionaire,” how effective do you think it would be? Would you be a millionaire tomorrow? Would money start falling out of the sky to land in your lap? I don’t think so!
Why not? Simply because your mind knows the statement isn’t true. If you try to feed your subconscious mind a belief that you are a millionaire, it creates a conflict with your current set of beliefs. Your subconscious mind does not like conflict, and it doesn’t like change – so nothing in your life changes!
In order for affirmations to work, you MUST word them so that that your subconscious mind won’t reject them. In other words, make them believable.
Compare the above affirmation to one like this: “I am becoming more prosperous every day.”
That one actually feels better, right? Your mind doesn’t try to resist it because you can actually imagine it happening, even if it hasn’t begun to happen yet.
Another way to boost your affirmations is to word them in a way that places the responsibility on you. For example, instead of affirming, “I am becoming more prosperous every day,” you could say, “I am open to new and better ways to become more prosperous.” The wording makes you feel more in control of your circumstances.
Rather than waiting anxiously for money to fall out of the sky, you send a message to your subconscious mind that you can control how much money you have by being alert to great opportunities.
Affirmations can vary in the length of time required to “take root” in your mind. For the most part, it depends on the intensity of your opposing beliefs and the level of effort you put forth in turning those beliefs around.
If your focus on lack is very strong, you’ll probably have to spend a fair amount of energy and effort to train your mind to focus on prosperity. You may have to repeat affirmations hundreds or thousands of times over a few weeks or months.
However, it is time and effort well spent because the more you focus on positive thoughts and prosperous beliefs, the more you’ll find yourself attracting good things into your life. Then, the more you will focus on good things that are showing up in your life… It’s a great cycle to be caught up in.
Here are a few good affirmations to help get you started on the road to prosperity:
* I use my thoughts and emotions to attract abundance effortlessly.
* I am becoming more prosperous and successful every day.
* I am talented and resourceful.
* I find it easier and easier to reflect on new opportunities that have come into my life.
* When I think wealthy thoughts, I become more wealthy in all aspects of my life.
* I am now using my imagination to create new wealth for myself and for others.
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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THOUGHT – THE CAUSE OF ACTION
Written by Jerry on August 30, 2009 – 1:22 am -
by Henry Thomas Hamblin
THERE is the conscious mind and there is the subconscious mind. The conscious mind gathers knowledge and experience through the senses. It learns from books, conversation and experience. It reasons and forms conclusions. Finally its thoughts pass down into the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is the mind of action. It is responsible for all that we do. It is the seat of memory and of instinct. It is a reservoir of tremendous power, it is of extraordinary intelligence, it carries out all the complicated processes within the body, which make life possible. The wisest and most learned of men cannot begin to fathom its wonderful powers, but in spite of this we know enough about its manner of working to enable us to control it, and by controlling it, we control our actions, and by controlling our actions we shape our life, and overcome what is called fate.
The subconscious mind, although so wonderfully intelligent and possessed of such extraordinary powers, acts entirely upon suggestion. That is to say, it follows blindly and faithfully the thoughts that are sent down into it. Therefore upon our thoughts depends what sort of actions are brought forth. If evil thoughts are sent down into the subconscious mind, then evil, destructive action will be the natural result. If thoughts of weakness and failure are entertained, then weak actions leading to failure will inevitably follow. On the other hand, if good thoughts are entertained, then constructive good action will result, and if strong, successful thoughts are entertained, they bring forth robust, constructive action, which leads to success and achievement. It is impossible to think evil thoughts and bring forth good actions. Many have tried it. They have said, I will be outwardly respectable and blameless in life, but in secret I will think this thought, I will hug it to my bosom because it is pleasant, but I will let it go no further, because I know that evil action leads to shipwreck and disaster. Therefore I will deceive even my best friends. Outwardly I will be all that I ought to be, but in my thoughts I will be evil. Mine will be a double life, to outsiders I shall be one thing, and in my thought-world something different. Thus I shall be able to enjoy evil in thought, and escape its penalties!
Such an one does not reckon with the power and faithfulness of the subconscious mind. Every evil thought which is entertained and gloated over, acts as a powerful suggestion to this patient giant, until at last it can stand it no longer, and bursts out into the life in the form of a course of evil action, which is an exact replica of the thoughts which have been entertained. This explains why so often people who have always been so exemplary in their conduct all at once go wrong, and come crashing down to ruin; they are simply reaping the harvest of their thoughts. Read more »
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Don’t Settle For Using 10% Of Your Mind
Written by Jerry on June 2, 2009 – 7:18 pm -Scientists say that we only use 10% of our minds. Think about what I just said. We use only 10% of our minds! We are wasting the other 90%. Think of it this way….what if we only used 10% of our salary? Could we survive on 10% of our salary? No way, unless you’re Bill Gates. What about eating only 10% of the food we make? Wouldn’t that be a waste of food? What if we slept only 10% of 8 hours or 80 minutes a day? Could we survive? What if we had only 10% of the oxygen that was available? Could we survive? The answer to all these questions is a resounding NO!
So why do we put up with using only 10% of our brain? Look at your life. Are you living the life you want….on your terms? Are you happy with what you’ve created or do you think it could be better? Chances are that you are living to only 10% of your abilities. What if you could make your life 100, 500, or 1,000% better? I can hear you now saying…"That’s impossible" or "that’s too hard to do." If you did say that, you’re repeating the same pattern in your life, which is you are using only 10% of your brain or less.
If you’re happy with using just the 10% of your brain then stop reading now. If you’re not satisfied and want to be able to use the rest of it then keep reading. Think about the greatness you can achieve by using your entire mind. There have been a number of great teachers of using the mind, such as Napoleon Hill, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Maxwell Maltz and many others. These men knew the secret to using the power of your mind and how to tap into it.
I’m here to tell you that you currently posses the most powerful tool in the Universe….your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND. Your subconscious mind knows everything. It has all the answers if you just use it correctly. It can lead you to a life of harmony, wealth, health, joy and success! This is possible with all aspects of your life.
It’s not your fault. You were never taught how to use your mind. The past is over and today can be a new start. It doesn’t matter what happened before today, what matters is what happens from today on. You must believe in your subconscious mind and know that it can allow you to lead a life of joy and success.
Let’s start off with a very simple procedure. Use your subconscious mind as an alarm clock. Before going to bed at night, tell it what time you want to get up. Let’s say you want to wake up at 7:00am. Before going to bed, tell your subconscious mind to "wake me up at 7:00am" and while saying this visualize a clock that reads 7:00.
The first step in changing your life is to start making impressions on your subconscious mind. You can so this by making affirmations as well as thinking certain thoughts. For example, let’s say you want to attract money in your life. You can simply repeat these words "I am wealth and success". Repeat these words several times a day. It’s best to say them in the morning when you get up and right before you sleep. This is when your mind is in an alpha state. When saying them, make sure you really mean them and focus on the words. Don’t feel it’s a chore or else it will not do you any good. You can also say them while meditating.
This can work for anything. Make sure the affirmations are positive and not stating the negative. For example, if you want to quit smoking, don’t say "I don’t smoke". Instead say "My lungs are pure and healthy and I breath easy." "I am" are two of the most powerful words in the English language.
Also, it’s very important to think positively, don’t say to yourself, "I’m just never lucky" or "I’m just meant to be poor." Think the opposite, "I am lucky" or "Things always work out to my favor" and I am wealthy and successful." If you have trouble believing yourself when you say them then change them to become more believable. You can start small or say "I am becoming wealthy."
If you need help with a problem or are in a situation where you have to make a tough decision and don’t know which is the best for you. Ask your subconscious mind for help. Let’s say you are contemplating two separate job offers and you are having trouble deciding between the two. Ask your subconscious mind for help by asking it. You may say something like "Infinite wisdom of my subconscious mind, I ask for your help in deciding what is best between these two job offers, I ask for your help and guidance in making a decision that is best for me."
Be still and listen to your subconscious mind. Close your eyes if need be and do not force anything to come to you but just be still and listen. If the answer doesn’t come right away, that’s ok. It’s probably searching for the answer and it may take a little bit of time. But, I assure you, the answer will come…..maybe the next day or next week. You just need to be alert and have your antennas up. The answer may come from something outside of you, perhaps after you wake up. You may be clear in your thoughts on what to do. You may read or hear something that may enlighten you on what to do. You may receive your answer by running into a friend and he may say something that may help you decide. Just be patient and do not get frustrated and think too much about it. By doing so, you are delaying the answer form coming to you.
Try these ideas every day for 14 days and I’ll be great things start to happen.
Never give up, stop accepting 10% and…
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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