Let Bygones Be Bygones
Written by Jerry on January 26, 2010 – 4:57 am -Deep down you know that there is simply nothing you can do to change the past. No matter how many times you wish you’d done something differently, the past will always remain unchanged.
You need to find a way to deal with your regret. When you continue to anguish over the past, you allow your own negative feelings to consume more and more of your life. It’s time to put a stop to it, so you can think positively again and your future will be brighter.
Getting Caught Up In The Past
It’s all too easy to get caught up in the past. Nobody’s perfect and, no matter how hard you try, you’ll still to make mistakes. It’s how you deal the mistakes that will make the true difference in your life.
If you’ve made a mistake or suffered a tragedy in the recent past, don’t allow the tragedy to replay in your mind over and over again. Don’t keep talking about it or telling your story over and over. You don’t want to relive the negative feels as if you were continually going through the tragedy. No one deserves that!
Instead, you have two choices, you can actively work on correcting your mistake, or you can let the feelings go because they’re not helpful to you in that moment. Or even better, do both.
Learn From Your Mistakes
There are lessons to be learned from every mistake you make no matter how small. The objective is to work on find out what these lessons are.
When negative feelings surround your past, focus on the lesson that can be learned. You might have never learned that lesson without the mistake. And now that you’ve gained this wisdom you can avoid making that mistake again in the future.
You might even take it a step further and do more with the lessons you’ve learned. Maybe you could raise awareness by telling others about your experience. If you can help others avoid the same mistakes, you’ll be doing something great for them and it will also help you feel better about the situation.
Avoid Resentment
You need to do your best to avoid resentment (and all negative emotions). Resentment is a poisonous emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly. You may even know somebody who had a falling out with a family member and resentment keeps them apart for years? Think about all the good times they’ve missed out on because of this bitterness!
Let It Go
Depending on what you’ve gone through, there may be a mourning period associated with your situation, but you’ll eventually have to let it go.
When you finally do let it go, you learn to forgive yourself and forgive others. Forgiveness is such an important element of a healthy life. It allows you to grow as a person and move forward to enjoy all that life has to offer. You weren’t meant to sit around mourning the past no matter how tragic it’s been for you.
How Negative Thinking Hurts You
Sometimes you keep telling yourself you’re over it but the negative thinking keeps creeping back into your life. You need to realize that the only person you’re hurting is yourself.
Let’s say you’ve said or done something to hurt someone’s feelings. You may think about it for days until you can’t take it anymore, and you feel you have to find this person to apologize. Many times the person may not even remember what happened, or they may just accept your apology. The point is you suffered with negative thoughts until you sought forgiveness.
There’s no need to cause yourself ongoing suffering because you made a mistake. instead seek peace and resolution, then move forward with your head held high.
And don’t forget to start a daily meditation practice if you haven’t already.
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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Think Positively in Tough Times
Written by Jerry on January 5, 2010 – 5:06 am -Sometimes it’s hard to look on the bright side even when things are going fairly well. When you’re going through tough times, keeping the "glass is half full" mentality can be a feat in itself!
Don’t Get Overwhelmed
When you’re in the middle of a stressful situation, it’s important to disallow over-anxious and over-analyzed thoughts. You really don’t want to overwhelm yourself with an over-stimulated mind because the added stress will only strain your mind further and you’ll find it nearly impossible to think positively.
Ways To Look On The Bright Side
How you go about transforming difficult situations into positive outcomes will differ each time. Your goal should be to discover a set of strategies that works well for you. It might take some experimenting, but that’s okay!
Consider the following ways to achieve a positive mindset:
1. Avoid feeling sorry for yourself. Feeling sorry for yourself only wastes precious brainpower and it’s not going to help you out in the long run. Instead, strive to gain the wisdom to accept your situation and focus on solutions, instead of sorrow or worry. Everyone has to travel through tough times at some point; it’s just a part of life!
2. Find the life lesson. It may be hard to find the silver lining, but it’s almost always hiding somewhere. All of your experiences – both good and bad – contribute to your life’s knowledge. Be thankful for what you know!
Reflect on the fact that you’ve gained wisdom and knowledge that may help you make better decisions and cope well in the future.
3. Start small. Take some time to reflect on the difficult situation. If you’re having trouble finding a positive manner of thinking, just start by smiling at yourself in the mirror. You might not feel happy right away, but it sure will be hard not to feel happy when you see a beautiful smiling face staring back at you! Read more »
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25 Things To Be Grateful For
Written by Jerry on October 13, 2009 – 4:38 am -25 Things You Can Be Grateful For
If you have read the 9 Minute Guide to a Happier Life or have been a reader of Cutting Edge Wisdom for a while, you know that I firmly believe in keeping a Gratitude Journal.
If you life has been really negative for a long time it may be a bit of a challenge, at first, to find 3 things every day that you are grateful for.
So I’ve created a little "cheat sheet" here to prime the pump and get you started.
Here are 25 things you might be grateful for:
- Being employed.
- Having a roof over your head.
- A car that runs.
- Food in the cupboard.
- Freedom to choose your leaders.
- A significant other that cares about you.
- Healthy children.
- Being alive.
- Being healthy.
- Living in more comfort than 90% of the worlds population.
- The ability to read.
- Being able to speak your mind without fear of being jailed.
- Good books to read.
- Inspiring music to listen to.
- Heat inside when it cold outside.
- Air conditioning inside when its hot outside.
- Internet access to reach out to the world.
- Being able to send a letter across the country in a few days for less than 50 cents.
- A mind that can think original thoughts.
- The ability to start a part time business from home for a few dollars.
- Being able to control your thoughts and thus create your own reality.
- That quarter you found on the side walk last week.
- Clean clothes to wear.
- Clean water to drink.
- The fact that you are changing your life for the better, right now!
Hope you are starting to get a few ideas of your own to add to the list. Never underestimate the power of being grateful and …
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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You’re Going To Love This!
Written by Jerry on September 19, 2009 – 6:41 am -
Great News!
Cutting Edge Wisdom is expanding – big time!
I have brought the best of Neurosculpt and Learn From the Masters together with Cutting Edge Wisdom and a lot more. You’re going to love the new Cutting Edge Wisdom.
You’ll find lot’s of new stuff like:
- Daily Meditations by James Allen
- Lessons from Past Masters of Attraction
- Meditation Articles and Resources
- The Kids Korner
- Free Monthly Downloads
It’s going to take about a month to get everything into place so keep checking in every few days and you’ll find new things.
Be sure to leave feedback and give me your ideas using the "Contact" button at the top of this page.
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
PS. Don’t forget to tell your friends!
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The Real “Secrets”
Written by Jerry on September 18, 2009 – 4:04 am -The Real Real "Secrets"
There’s a pretty good chance you’ve heard something about the Law of Attraction in the past few years. For a while it was pretty big news and lots of people who wanted better lives jumped on the bandwagon.
While you’re not hearing as much about it in the media these days, the Law of Attraction still holds true. Just what is the Law of Attraction, and how can it work to help you be happier and more successful?
The basic rule of the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like. When you’re in a healthy, successful mindset, you’ll be healthier and more successful. Positive thinking is a powerful tool as long as you use it correctly. So how do you do it?
Here are some ways you can use the Law of Attraction to make your life more fulfilling and achieve your goals:
1. Visualize what you desire. You need to have a clear idea of what you want out of life, not just a general or vague picture. By envisioning every detail of your desire, you’ll eventually receive it!
•Know exactly what your goal is and outline the path for getting there.
•Then track your progress. You’ll be surprised at how much of a difference this makes!
2. Allow yourself to succeed. You may think this sounds silly. After all, you’re not the one holding yourself back – or are you? Many of us keep ourselves from the success we hope for, whether it’s because we feel like we don’t deserve it or we’re just not paying attention.
•Take a look at your life and ask yourself if you have behavior patterns or attitudes that keep you from taking advantage of opportunities that can help you succeed. Recognizing and being aware of these self-sabotaging attitudes is a big step toward change.
•Do you consistently do something that sets you back every time you’re on the verge of achieving a goal? Forming a mindset that will allow you to be a success can make a huge difference.
3. Have focus. It’s easy to have many desires at once. For your best results, work on one or two things at a time and give them your full attention. Without the ability to focus your energy and thoughts on your goal, the chances of failure and distraction go up.
So if you find yourself pursuing multiple goals but never get near any of them, it’s time to focus. The Law of Attraction tells us that in order to achieve, we have to be in a clear, focused mindset, with a strong picture of a single goal.
•Once you’ve focused on a single goal and achieved it, you can turn your focus to your next goal. This way, one by one, you are realizing success.
4. Be willing to receive the bounty the universe offers you. The world is constantly giving you chances to make things better. If you maintain the right mindset, stay focused, and know what you want and how to get there, you’ll reap the benefits of those opportunities.
•Every day there are opportunities that could lift you out of the rut and put you on the road to a better tomorrow. You just have to be willing to take advantage of them.
The Law of Attraction principles have helped many people change their lives for the better. Keeping a positive mindset and taking action to accomplish your goals will help you achieve the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Never Stop Exploring Life!
Jerry L Saunders, RM
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